If You Have Something to Say… Just Spit it Out!!!
- Your listener(s) will quickly tune you out
- The subject will most likely change before you feel heard
- You’ve wasted valuable time “him-hawing” around
- Your day may be in ruin, which you now feel you deserve
- You decide to drop the subject all together, which leaves stuff unsaid
- The “moment” to have your say has passed!
Oh! Do you think I’m here to teach you something I didn’t have to learn myself? Not the case.
When I was growing up, I had the most wonderful, deliberate “teacher” in the world. She was my foster mother, who I will love ’til the day I die.
For whatever reason, I always wanted to talk to her. I couldn’t wait until she was sitting still.
Nope! I had to interrupt her while she was in the middle of doing something. I thought I was ready with my important words.
After all, hadn’t I rehearsed and rehearsed. Then she’d stop and look me in the eye.
That’s when I started to ramble. I guess I suddenly got tongue tied or something. Anyway, my words made no sense whatsoever.
What I did was start telling a long, drawn out story.
There was no real point to any of it at the beginning, I was simply warming up to the real conversation.
My mother soon tired, and loudly implored me to, “Stop Beating Around the Bush, spit it out girl?!”
It would take a number of times of her scolding me, and a time or two of her ignoring me completely, before I learned.
I didn’t want my “him-hawing” around to keep me from having a conversation with her, or anybody else. So, I learned to SPEAK UP!
All Grown Up…
Although I love to talk, I’m much more careful about getting to the point. I suspect most people wouldn’t dream of scolding me if I didn’t. No matter, my mother’s words always come to mind.
I love getting what I want. That’s another motivator. When I have something to say, I say it, ask, I ask it.
There are seconds to make my point, so beating around the bush is not an option.
We live in a world where “busyness” is running wild. People lose the plot quickly.
Learn to Speak Up, or be ignored.
Has spitting your words out ever fallen by the wayside?