Typically, when something goes wrong in our lives, we are quick to utter lots of 4-letter words.
What’s your favorite? And does using it have a positive impact on your life?
Ever play charades?
New word. 3 tiny letters. It’s beautiful, elegant, powerful, and resilient.
When we put “yet” on the end of any sentence, we can be well on your way to experiencing renewed progress and growth.
Plus, adding the word “YET” to the end of negative self-talk completely changes the sentence!
“I haven’t learned how to do that…yet!“
“I’m not on the footpath I want my life to eventually take…yet!”
“I haven’t gotten my family on the fast train to financial freedom…yet!”
“I’ve not reached my body image goals…yet!”
“I haven’t published my book of poems or short stories…yet!”
“I haven’t met my life partner…yet!”
“I’m not living up to my full potential…yet!”
“I’m not completely stressed out…yet!”
Oh WOW! It gets easier to imagine using yet the more you say it, don’t you agree?
The sentences composed here are just sentences, but the ones you can start re-composing are BOOMING, BANGING, and BINGING!!!
Dr. Carol Dweck a brilliant mind, first began researching the phenomenal superpower of yet with children. Successful results only strengthened her resolve that more and more children be taught to develop a “yet sensibility.”
She is determined to see the paradigm change from “success-failure” to “effort, growth, attitude.”
She is strong in her belief that creating a culture of “Yet” creates a sense of hope.
And as for us grownups additional growth is also possible. We just may not have gotten there yet. Hello?!
We as adults can’t go back to childhood, where we may have missed out on being encouraged to learn resilience.
We may have been told how smart and talented we were by teachers and parents. Or, I’m sad to say, told we didn’t measure up. At any rate, we were probably never going to be a success. Boo Hiss!
But how about today? Are we afraid of the risky business called: progress that may not give us the same results?
Are we hem hawing around in our comfort zones, because how would we look if we dropped from the scale of 1-10 with 10 being yesteryear, down today to say, 8?
Let’s keep something in mind here…
Thankfully, and as the song goes:
“It Ain’t Over ‘Til It’s Over”
What makes it possible for some people to view a big learning curve as something fun, while for others it’s enough to stop them in their tracks?
Dweck, Stanford professor of psychology and author of …
has some useful ideas on that question, based on decades of research.
She has found that one’s choice of mindset makes all the difference, and has described two:
The Fixed Mindset and The Growth Mindset.
These two “mindsets” have been proven to affect the productivity and contentment a person ultimately experiences in life.
Wouldn’t you rather go from where you are now to someplace farther along the “yet” spectrum?
The essence of Dr. Dweck’s guidance is this:
“Learn to hear your fixed mindset voice. Talk back to it with a growth mindset voice.”
You do have a choice!
Better yet, and as I’ve learned from NLP, don’t shut down either voice. Practice giving yourself a choice as to which you’d rather hear.
How does each sound to you? What can you change to make the more empowering voice more compelling?
Clearly, adopting a growth mindset can help us make more of our dreams a reality, bit by bit. Springboard, by springboard.
The world opens up!
So, next time you find yourself yearning to try something new, but hear yourself saying, “But I don’t know how to do that!”
Try adding this tiny [3-letters], but powerful word to your declaration:
Which mindset would Y O U rather brew up???
Which will be your cup of tea???
FIXED or GROWTH???