If you are reading me now, or have been for sometime, you probably already realize that I don’t mince words.
Although I talk pretty much like I write, I have learned over time, and scathing blunders, to be mindful of the words that come out of my mouth.
Once out, they can’t be shoveled back in. And there are mounds of words we sometimes put into sentences that definitely need a shovel.
Even if we’ve managed to learn how to keep our cacophony to a minimum, our tones respectful, and most in-sensitive word sets at bay, we may still be using tenses, contexts, timing, and in-opportunities to our detriment.
If you have never uttered an ill spoken sentence, thank your lucky stars!
If on the other hand, some of the numbered examples below strike a chord with you, simply be mindful the next time, because if you’ve practiced these enough, they’ll be a dosey to correct.
It can be done however, by reading these over, and thinking about how you feel when you’re the unsuspecting recipient.
Enter… The Wonky Things We Say!
1) That’s OK!
When It isn’t.
2) Can I come in?
When you’ve already crossed the threshold.
3) Give me 5 minutes.
You know good & well it’s going to take longer.
4) You pick. I don’t mind.
When you really want to be included in the decision.
5) I love you.
Which type of ‘love’ are you referring to? Believe me. You don’t want to wonk this one up!
6) I know this will probably make you angry but…
Trust me, the ‘but’ does not cancel out this type of emotionally suggestive lead-in.
7) I’m sorry!
Oops. You just poo pooed on your person-hood. Instead, use the words ‘I apologize.’ Then thoughtfully state what you’re apologizing for.
8) Saying ‘yes’ when you really mean ‘No!’
This is a great way not only to become conflicted, but eventually resentful.
9) I know what you’re thinking and…
Seriously? Do you really want to go there???
10) I know you don’t want to hear this but…
After saying that, you don’t really expect to finish too many more sentences, do you?
I would love to hear any wonky sayings that come to mind for you. Not all slips of the 👅 go south, some we really do say because we mean to say them.
As long as you make it ‘clear’ what you’re trying to get across, an escape route won’t be necessary.
And that dear reader is a good thing!