You’ve just been asked, how’s life treating you? How are you doing? How are you feeling?
Then you reply: “Fine.” -or- “OK!”
But…is it, though?
Is everything fine, are you OK, or are you just pretending so?
My question is…
How do you get beyond these one-word answers, which aren’t really what you actually want to say, how you’re actually doing, how you are really feeling, to it really being so?
My beloved Mother would always say: “Life is hard by the yard, but by the inch it’s a cinch.”
It took me years to understand what she meant by that, that’s until I decided to piece it out a bit more.
When we take on way too much, when the world itself is sucking for us right now, we aren’t doing that fine, we aren’t feeling that good, we aren’t having the best time.
Yet…we’d rather not face it head-on. Instead, we use the “fine,”
or “OK” word.
Thank goodness most people don’t press us for specifics. I do believe however, we should press ourselves a tad more.
To get over it, we have to get under it. We have to push it up and out, where we can find out more about it.
I don’t ever want to be too busy shuffling my feet to do this. What about you?
It’s hard to hide behind a smile. Our stiff upper lip is rarely cooperating. In my opinion, that’s why we have to find a way that works for us to get there, to really be “fine,” and or “OK!”
Here’s where the word: “Acceptance” comes to mind for me. I may not always feel my best, but I accept that it’s a part of life. So is living on this planet!
Hopefully, the person(s) that asks us how we’re doing really cares, because then maybe, we can actually expand their knowledge, and our own knowledge, on the subject.
Even if they don’t, here’s hoping we care enough about ourselves to give our current state a more “acceptable” answer.
Is it, though?
Is it the way we want to go through life – just being “fine,” and “OK?”